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Understanding your attachment style promotes personal growth & relational wellbeing

We are relational beings. We are wired for connection. It can foster our growth and security, and also evoke many of our fears, worries, insecurities, and a whole slew of emotions and behaviours that we don’t always understand (or even see), until we do .  

Oftentimes, we aren’t consciously aware of our relational patterning that formed at a young age. When you come to understand how your attachment style shapes you as an adult, your relational ways of being and feeling  suddenly makes more sense.  This knowledge becomes your ticket to self growth, empowerment, and strengthening trust and security in your relationships, in all areas of your life.

“The more we understand our attachment patterns. The more we can navigate relationships with clarity and empathy”

~ Amir Levine

Have you ever wondered why certain work relationships send you into an anxious or avoidant state, maybe you people please more, or fear a coworker’s disapproval or rejection.  Or why intimacy in your romantic relationships can be fear inducing and feel destabilizing? What felt like a ‘trigger’ may be your attachment style revealing itself.

From infancy onward, our attachment patterns form as a way to get our needs met.  The good news is at any stage in our lives we can learn how to shift our attachment style, become aware of our needs and learn how to communicate them, building secure attachments with the people we love and work with. 

Here are 5 takeaways about attachment that increases self awareness, contributing to inner peace and personal growth.

1) Insecure attachment styles are patterns that can be changed, they are repairable, not fixed. 

2) We can have different attachment styles with different people in our lives. Shedding light on why we behave and feel differently with some versus another.

3) Understanding our style enhances our self awareness and emotional regulation impacting our bonds with others and our wellbeing.

4) Healing happens within relationships, not in isolation. Interdependence is a strength.

5) Secure attachments foster connection and resilience.

Curious what attachment style you are?  Here is a free resource to learn more about your attachment style (The Attachment Project Quiz https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/)

Learning about attachment styles offers numerous benefits, from enhancing personal and professional relationships to fostering self-awareness and personal growth.  Embracing this understanding can lead to a more fulfilling and connected life.

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Amy is an attachment-informed RN, Psychotherapist in Ontario, Canada, and Founder of AF Wellness, she is passionate about inspiring mind, body + holistic healing.